Sex: How will the dynamics in a relation change if guys water down their attitude towards physical intimacy?

In Uncategorized on June 20, 2013 at 8:02 am

I think the question requires some editing: ” How will the dynamics in a relation” it should be. If any reader can change it for more clarity it will be nice. However,

Let me start from the last line:
If that is the destination, they would have been there till morning without getting back to dress.
It is not a milestone like thing – they in fact achieved their satisfaction some other way, but want to see more.  Suppose I started drinking Beer and then graduated to drink Brandy and then Whisky and reached Scotch – then I want Johnny  Walker and then Johnny Walker Blue Label.
The “exploration” is not milestone – but a “continues process”.

Coming back to the first line:
“it is generally “seen” – because every body can see the “result” of sexual emotion of men but not of “women”.

They are the one who are “supposed” to make first move!
I beg your pardon, it is not “supposed to” – they “have” to, “need” to and “should” other wise there will be no way to arose female; So after that – the positions may  change – as per the degree and power of emotions of female.

And now hold your breath:

William Masters (1915-2001) and Virginia Johnson (born 1925) were two researchers who took a biological and feminist approach to their studies of the human sexual response, which they performed from 1957 until the early 1990s. Differing from Kinsey’s method of using personal interviews, they used the direct observation method. In this method, subjects were observed as they were engaging in a variety of sexual activities which included masturbation, stimulation of the breasts, and sexual intercourse with a partner (Kolodny, 1981).  They used various measurement devices to measure muscular and vascular responses to sexual arousal. Thus, instead of placing a focus on personal histories of sexual behaviors as Kinsey did, Masters and Johnson focused primarily on the biology of sex as they examined physiological responses to sexual activity.

The following paragraphs are taken from: ( full book is available – free)
Human Sexual Behavior

The term “sexual behavior” can refer to all actions and responses related to pleasure seeking.

This is a modern, very wide definition which can be traced to Sigmund Frond and his psychoanalytic theory. It was Freud who advanced the concept of “libido” (Latin: lust) which for him at first summarized the physiological energy associated with sexual urges, and later all constructive human endeavor. Eventually, he saw human life as a whole dominated by two opposing basic instincts: Eros (the life instinct) and Thanatos (the death instinct). This view was not shared by all of his followers, but the notion of a powerful innate erotic instinct or drive was widely adopted and even became part of modern popular wisdom. Thus, in many minds “the sex drive” came to stand for man’s pursuit of pleasure in all its forms. “Sex” was the underlying motive of every life-enhancing activity.

As we can see, when used in this fashion, the term “sexual behavior” becomes quite inclusive. It then may refer not only to all forms of lovemaking between men and women, but also to all sorts of other human activities. Indeed, it may be applied to infantile breast- and thumbsucking as well as to adult eating, drinking, and smoking, to dancing, singing, bicycle riding, collecting art, or applauding an artist. It may even refer to hunting, wrestling, fencing, or firing a gun. The only question in these cases is one of motivation. If the behavior is somehow motivated by the wish for pleasure, if it is prompted by an individual’s inner need for self-fulfillment, if it satisfies him or gives him comfort, if it heightens his sense of being alive—then it is clearly sexual.

As a matter of fact, one could go further and speak of sexual behavior in people who daydream about love or who act out their erotic fantasies in an unrecognizable, symbolic fashion. One could also say that the “sex drive” is blocked, warped, or disturbed in some men and women, and that they therefore offend, attack, hurt, maim, or even kill other people in a “perverted” attempt to get sexual satisfaction. In some of these cases, obvious sexual clues might even be entirely absent. Nevertheless, a psychoanalyst could perhaps track them down and thus show the “true” motivation. (On the other hand, in the end the “true” motivation may also turn out to be entirely negative, i.e., a manifestation of the death instinct. Then the suspected sexual behavior would stand revealed as not having been sexual at all.)

These few examples may suffice to show that the above definition ol sexual behavior is problematical. Certainly, it is not descriptive and neutral as were the two earlier definitions. Instead, it is evaluative and has a strong element of speculation. One may also question whether it would make any sense when applied to animals. In any case, it has not proved to be very useful to scientists. By the same token, however, it has often had great appeal for moralists and philosophers.


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