If you are writing a discourse on person………

In Uncategorized on June 20, 2013 at 8:09 am

If you are writing a discourse on person/ family – how do you avoid starting every sentence with their name, they or he?

Reader’s Digest is the best valuable guide in this particular aspect. You can search for 2nd hand book stalls on any busy roads and get four or five different editions of RD.

You will find there that the heading is so inviting and the story begins in a different way. say:

1. Time was 11 AM, the next local train arrives after 30 minutes, platform was empty. ( now you start) I was thinking of A, suppose he was here?

2. I was getting hurry to get out of my home as I was already late, and suddenly the mobile started ringing and I was about to reach the mobile, there was a knock on the front door. I stood there. Standing between ringtones of mobile and gentle knocks on my door. ( start from here)

3. “Are you going to move from this city? ” Anand asked me. I was there – looking into his eyes, trying to get the reason behind this question. In fact he asked this question 11th time in the last 12 hours. Then I remembered (……..)

Each story or each essay of RD is an excellent teacher about How to ? of different aspects.


What are some of the effective ways to contain anger that has worked for you?

In Uncategorized on June 20, 2013 at 8:08 am

There was a story in Reader’s Digest in the year 1950 and it was reprinted again in 1980.
I forgot the title:  In brief I narrate the story:
A gentleman has observed that his neighbor was digging on his side of wall and this gentleman thought that if he digs deep, then the boundary wall may be collapsed and then cooked him self about after effects and straight away went to his Lawyer friend and insisted that he has to draft a notice to his neighbor as he was trying to dismantle his house.

The lawyer pacified him for some time and then asked him whether he has time to listen a story.  So he continued.

There was a man who was driving his car alone and was going to other city. By the time he reached some distance – it was around 10 in the night but he moved ahead and suddenly his back wheel tyre got punctured.  He got down and looked at it and then opened the luggage box and he found that there was no wrench to replace the tyre.  He was annoyed at himself and then started looking around to find any workshop or house or any thing.  Fortunately, at a distance he saw a home with lights outside and inside.  So, he wanted to borrow the wrench and get the tyre replaced.  While he was going he was planning about how long it will take to replace the tyre, whether the people there in the house will allow me to take wrench or ask me to bring the car there and whether they will ask any money for lending me the wrench etc.  But by the time he was just few meters away from the house; all the lights were off except a small light on the portico.  He was stunned and waited few seconds but decided to ask them, so he moved towards that house thinking that they may be sleeping, or they may ask some money.
Well, I am ready to pay some thing – as I have to get the tyre replaced and that is important as I can not live all the night on the road.
Suppose they ask more money?
No, – I don’t think ,….
Well if some one insists more money or ask me to bring the car there?
How can I?
Okay.. forget bringing the car.. This idiot starts insisting for unusual price just to rent the wrench for a couple of hours? When I was stranded on the road?
How can I pay?
Will see – I will see them..
By thinking and expecting and cooking himself he reached the main door and pressed the bell.
There was no response.. After few seconds he pressed again.. Then a light was put on and this man was by that time cooked himself about the money the insider is going to ask –
So, as soon as the house owner opened the door
“Keep your wrench in side your safe, who wants your wrench, I can sleep inside the car. It’s too much to ask that much for just lending”

He shouted at that man and swiftly turned back and went towards his car leaving the house owner aghast.

The lawyer asked his friend  – about his reaction. Both laughed loudly and the chapter closed there.

So next time some one comes with his BP on high – ask him “ do you want wrench”
When your anger is going out-of-the-way – remember Wrench story.

How Modi is different from “common” Indian politicians

In Uncategorized on June 20, 2013 at 8:06 am

When he headed a ministry with ministers who are convicted with and charge sheeted for offences of corruption and murder?

Let’s not take cover under “no one is perfect”
We believe in secularism and we need to, as we are a nation of a history that it has seen ups and downs but flourished by the cooperation of all religions.  There is no question of  that we are leaders and they have to submit to us.  At the end, whatever your agenda may be, once you got elected – may be its divine or fate or compulsion – whatever, you start looking at a larger picture with due relevance to every one involved. You can not suddenly become a Hindu terrorist over night or give an order to police to destroy all other religious symbols or halls – as if you are living in 1970 BC.

We are all – with no exception – whatsoever – dependent on one another – irrespective of religion or cast or language.  Morning we get up and our milkman may be Muslim, paper boy is a Hindu, bus driver Christian and conductor is Muslim and there are passengers – are from Gujarat, Kannada, Maratha and Telugu and Bengali etc., Our client are Muslims and our boss may be Hindu but his MD may be Muslim. There is not a single day passed in any Indian’s life without an interaction with other people who belongs to the religion other than his.

To hell with this, – but it’s the beauty of our country’s culture. Basically we do not know how to brand our-self otherwise this simple analysis is our prominent USP.

You should know that after emergency – when people rejected Smt Indira Gandhi – within 3 years they went back to her.  When Rajiv took over after her assassination and he went for polls and he got elected with huge majority. And when he was assassinated – on that day I was in Calcutta – the bund was so spontaneous, in fact no one has called for Bund – in reality no body was able to come out from home. It was as if they lost their own relation.

We Indians are – emotionally uncontrollable, and if we have decided and believed in some thing – we will not leave it or forget it till we do our best, so tomorrow we can beat our cheat saying “I only voted to XXXX”

More or less – the people of our country wants some new regime to take over, because with Rahul Gandhi – the same dispensation will be there.  If he can promise some thing new – not by talking – but by actions, Rahul should do few things or talk openly – totally in an innovative way and should arise the people’s hope and then – there may be tussle.  Other wise, the wave has to be maintained – but I am doubtful –  I feel the train has come very early, if it is late no issues and if it is on right time – it was excellent – but has come too early. People are not ready.